FAMILY:
What about the Children? (homosexual adoption)
Should people
involved in homosexual or lesbian relationships be allowed to adopt children?
The High Court is presently considering whether homosexual and lesbian
couples should be allowed to co-adopt children. Are children who grow
up in single-sex parented homes advantaged or disadvantaged?
These statistics show the tragic consequences of fatherless and single
parent homes in the United States:
· 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
· 85% of all children that exhibit behavioural disorders come from
fatherless homes.
· 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless
homes.
· 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
· 75% of all adolescent patients in drug abuse centres come from
fatherless homes.
· 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless
home.
While this applies to children who grow up in fatherless homes, mothers
are equally important in the lives of children and the results of 'motherless'
homes are equally tragic. Children who grow up with two mothers and no
father, and those who grow up with two fathers and no mother, will be
horribly handicapped in life.
Children of homosexuals less sociable and achieve lower grades
Dr Sotirios Sarantakos from Charles Stuart University, Australia did research
comparing primary school children in married, cohabiting heterosexual
and homosexual couples. Children in normal marriages faired the best,
and children in homosexual homes the worst. Children of homosexual couples
scored the lowest in language ability, mathematics and sport. They were
more timid, reserved, unwilling to work in a team or talk about home lives
and holidays. They felt "uncomfortable when having to work with students
of a sex different from the parent they lived with" and were the
least sociable. Although homosexual couples gave their children "more
freedom", married couples cared for and directed their children most.
Children of married parents had clear future plans, while the children
of homosexuals and cohabiters wanted to leave school and get a job as
soon as possible. Children of homosexuals were "more confused about
their gender" and more effeminate (irrespective of their gender).
It is not fair of our society, our government and our courts to establish
public policy that encourages this social engineering and pretends that
homosexual "families" are normal, healthy and desirable. Instead,
public policy should work toward mitigating the harmful effects of divorce
and single parenting that results in motherless and fatherless homes -
not promoting it!
Former lesbian says having children was a cruel mistake
Former lesbian Cherie Tayler had three children by artificial insemination.
Her lesbian partner shared the parenting. After the break-up of their
16-year relationship, Cherie admitted that her life as a lesbian has been
spurred on by her unloving mother and sexually abusive father. She said
that having children had been a cruel mistake. She reported on a 60 Minutes
TV documentary that she saw the hurt in her children's faces every day.
Her 11-year-old son wanted to know about his father's job, what he looked
like, the colour of his eyes - and Cherie was unable to answer. She said,
"I (now) believe that children should have the best opportunities
in life. The best way they can have a balanced view of what is normal
is with heterosexual parents."
It does not matter whether we think homosexuality (the act of "mating"
with a member of the same sex) is normal or deviant, emotionally healthy
or not, the fact is that we should do what is best for the children. People
who live homosexual lives say that they have a right to do what they want
in their bedrooms and private lives. But adopting children is not about
their "private" lives as it intrudes into the life of children
who will not have a choice, and are not old enough to make a mature and
informed choice. Special privileges, like adoption, for men or women who
engage in homosexuality, are hotly debated worldwide, with the vast majority
of countries, and the vast majority of people across the world, saying
'No, let's stick to what is best for the children.'
Children raised homosexuals more likely to explore homosexuality themselves.
A study by two pro-homosexual sociologists from the University of Southern
California, Judith Stacey and Timothy Biblarz, showed that these children
"seem to grow up to be more open to homoerotic relations (getting
involved in homosexuality)." Stacey said that in the past "sympathetic
researchers" have defensively stressed an absence of difference,
but a re-evaluation of past studies showed that there are significant
differences. Homosexual activists were pleased about this. Aimee Gelnaw,
director of Family Pride Coalition (a pro-homosexual organisation) responded
to the research, "Of course our kids are going to be different. They
are growing up in a different social context." Kate Kendall, head
of the San Francisco-based National Centre for Lesbian Rights said homosexuals
should be elated by the study which shows that "our kids are somewhat
more likely to identify as lesbian and gay."
But is this best for children? British MP Julian Brazier says, "This
sort of social experiment may be exciting for the people who take part
in it but they should ask themselves whether it is in the best interests
of the child."
Cornelia Oddie of the U.K. based Family and Youth Concern think tank says,
"It must be extra confusing for the children. With homosexual couples
the majority of their friends would be presumably part of the homosexual
culture, so the children grow up with a skewed idea of relationships.
This is bound to give children an unbalanced view of social and sexual
relationships."
The implications are severe. With the acceptance of two homosexuals as
joint parents, the family is torn from its traditional and God-inspired
balance of a mother and a father both giving of their commitment, love
and essence to the children. What kinds of homes can homosexuals and lesbians
offer children?
Homosexual relationships are short-lived and less faithful
Even in those homosexual relationships, which the partners consider 'committed',
the meaning of 'committed' typically means something radically different
from marriage.
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In
the Triangle Project study of homosexual men in Cape Town, 47% of
respondents said that they were currently in a relationship, yet only
13.3% of respondents had had only one partner in the past year. 60%
of the men who were currently 'in a relationship' admitted to having
had "sex" with people other than their partners in the past
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In
the book, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop, the authors,
two homosexual lecturers, report a study of 156 men in homosexual
relationships lasting from one to 37 years. Only seven couples had
a totally exclusive sexual relationship and of these, the men had
all been together for less than five years. In other words, all the
so-called 'couples' with a relationship lasting more than five years
had incorporated some outside sexual activity into their relationships.
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Homosexual
relationships are more violent than traditional marriage
While homosexuals, particularly lesbians, propagate the idea of the lesbian
or homosexual home as one of peace and equality, the truth is that homosexual
relationships are far more violent than heterosexual marriages. The U.S.
Department of Justice's Bureau of Justice Statistics reports that married
women in normal families experience the lowest rate of violence compared
with women in other types of relationships. Consider these studies of
homosexual relationships:
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The
Journal of Interpersonal Violence published an article entitled "Letting
out the Secret: Violence in Lesbian Relationships". Researchers
found that 90% of the lesbians surveyed had been recipients of one
or more acts of verbal aggression from their intimate partners during
the year prior to this study. 31% of women in lesbian relationships
reported one or more incidents of physical abuse. |
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A
survey of 1,099 lesbians found that "slightly more than half
of the [lesbians] reported that they had been abused by a female lover/partner.
The most frequent forms of abuse were verbal/emotional/psychological
abuse and combined physical-psychological abuse." |
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In
their book Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered Gay Men and
Domestic Violence, D. Island and P. Letellier report that "the
incidence of domestic violence among gay men is nearly double that
in the heterosexual population." |
Homosexuality
and crime
A study of 4340 adults in five metropolitan areas of the USA showed that
bisexuals and homosexuals (about 4% of the sample) compared to heterosexuals:
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exposed
themselves sexually to more different bodies (more frequently admitting
to participating in orgies and reported larger numbers of sexual partners);
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more
frequently participated in socially disruptive sex (e.g., deliberate
infection of others, cheating in marriage, making obscene phone calls);
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more
frequently reported engaging in socially disruptive activities (e.g.,
criminality, shoplifting, tax cheating); and |
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more
frequently exposed themselves to biological hazards (e.g. fisting,
bestiality, ingestion of faeces and sadomasochism). |
Homosexuality
and substance abuse
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A
study published in Nursing Research found that lesbians are three
times more likely to abuse alcohol and suffer from other compulsive
behaviours than heterosexual women. The study found that: Like most
problem drinkers, 91% of the participants had abused other drugs as
well as alcohol, and many reported compulsive difficulties with food
(34%), co-dependency on people (29%), sex (11%), and money (6%)."
In addition, "46% had been heavy drinkers with frequent drunkenness."
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The
Triangle Project survey of homosexual men in Cape Town in 2000 found
that 68% of men had used at least one recreational drug in the past
year. 41% had used marijuana, 40% used ecstacy, 36% used poppers and
25% used cocaine. Acid and speed were used by about a fifth of the
men. |
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A
study in Family Planning Perspective showed that male homosexuals
were at greatly increased risk for alcoholism: "Among men, by
far the most important risk group consisted of homosexual and bisexual
men, who were more than nine times as likely as heterosexual men to
have a history of problem drinking." |
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The
Washington Blade, a homosexual newspaper, reports that "various
studies on Lesbian health suggest that certain cancer risk factors
occur with greater frequency in this population. These factors include
higher rates of smoking, alcohol use, poor diet and being overweight."
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Live hard,
die fast
Note also that homosexuals have shorter life spans than other people.
A study in the United States found that the median age of death of married
men was 75 and unmarried heterosexual men, 71. By comparison, homosexual
men who died of non-AIDS causes, had a median age of death of 42 (41 years
for those men who had a long-term sexual partner and 43 for those who
did not). Homosexuals who had long-term partners lived shorter than those
who do not. The study also found that homosexuals were 24 times more likely
to commit suicide and had a traffic-accident death rate 18 times the rate
of comparably aged white males. The 140 lesbians surveyed had a median
age of death of 45 and exhibited high rates of violent death and cancer
as compared to women in general. The study showed that 20% of lesbians
died of murder, suicide or accident - a rate 512 times higher than that
of white females of similar age.
Are these kinds of homes the best we can offer our children?
God's Word is clear that only a man and a woman can enter into marriage,
and this is the foundation for the family. Genesis 2:24 reads, "Therefore
a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and
they shall become one flesh." Malachi 2:15 says that God made a man
and his wife one because "He seeks godly offspring." For those
who stray from the wisdom of God, the results are tragic. These statistics
show that homosexual homes are less stable, more unfaithful and relationships
are shorter, and there is more drug and alcohol abuse and domestic violence.
Children in homosexual homes score lower grades and are more sexually
confused and unsociable than other children. If one homosexual couple
wins the right to co-adopt children, the door will opened for this social
experiment, without further research, study or discussion into the issue.
Stand up, speak up - for the sake of the children. What can you do?
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Pray
fervently. |
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Tell
the truth about homosexuality. Do not allow yourself to be censored.
Write to newspapers, your political representative and government
officials. |
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The
SA Law Commission will soon release papers on "domestic partnerships"
and proposals to allow people of the same-sex to marry. Be prepared
to make submissions on this issue. Fax or email Africa Christian Action
for more information. |
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Get
informed. |
Africa Christian
Action will soon publish The Pink Agenda: Sexual Revolution and the Ruin
of the Family. This book exposes homosexual behaviour and its links to
crime, disease, substance abuse, paedophilia and domestic violence. It
gives an overview of the history of homosexual activism in South Africa,
the local politics that allowed its unprecedented victories and the laws
that have already been granted. The book examines the ramifications of
having the most liberal constitution in the world.
The work also covers the redefinition of marriage, family and the child
in law. A frightening picture emerges when we consider the implications
of the 'anything goes' family and attempts to lower the age of sexual
consent around the world. With the South Africa government considering
establishing "homosexual marriage", you need to be equipped
with the facts, and an understanding of where it will all end - if we
don't stop the tidal wave!
To order
your pre-launch copy of The Pink Agenda, contact Africa Christian Action.
What the
Bible says about homosexuality
"For although they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God nor
gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish
hearts were darkened… Therefore God gave them over in the sinful
desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their
bodies with one another… Even their women exchanged natural relations
for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations
with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed
indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty
for their perversion. Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile
to retain the knowledge of God, He gave them over to a depraved mind,
to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind
of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity…" Romans 1:20-29 (NIV)
"Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable."
Leviticus 18:22 (NIV)
"Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor
adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor
the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the
kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NIV)
1. U.S. D.H.H.S.,
Bureau of the Census
2. U.S. Center for Disease Control
3. Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978
4. National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools
5. Rainbows for all God's Children
6. Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992
7. S. Sarantakos, Children in three contexts", Children Australia,
1996.
8. "Study shows impact of gay parenting," Associated Press,
16 July 2001
9. "They're all one gay, happy family," Sunday Argus, 16/17
June 2001
10. Sex Survey 2000 Cape Town, Richard Boxford, Feb 2001
11. McWhirter & Mattison, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop,
1984, p 252-3
12. Bureau of Justice Statistics Selected Findings, Nov 1994, p 2
13. Lockhart et al., Journal of Interpersonal Violence 9, Dec 1994, p
469-492
14. Lie & Gentlewarrier, Journal of Social Service Research 15, 1991,
p 41-59
15. Island & Letellier, Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered
Gay Men and Domestic Violence, 1991, p 14
16. P Cameron et al, " Psychological Reports 1989, p 64 & 1167-1179
17. J Hall, Nursing Research 43 1994, p 238-244
18. Sex Survey 2000 Cape Town
19. K P Erickson et al, Family Planning Perspectives 26, Dec 1994, p 261
20. R Smith, The Washington Blade, 17 Dec 1999
21. P Cameron, The Gay 90s, p 53-57
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For
more information and resources contact:
AFRICA CHRISTIAN ACTION
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